I wrote about two years ago on my unsuccessful quest for honest feedback, and found validation this month in a number of reports that back up what I was saying: that male leaders don’t like giving honest feedback to women. Here’s the tweet that jogged my memory:
Here’s another good article on the topic; the video link is worth a watch: Women Receive Worse Feedback Than Men, New Research Reveals (the title is a bit misleading, what they mean is that women receive feedback that is less effective than men do).
A central factor in this giving of half-hearted feedback is the worry that men have of offending or upsetting female staff. Well, knowing that my career is stalled by unhelpful performance reviews is both upsetting and offensive.
I recognised this in my male managers – I can only think of one who spoke to me on the same level as the men in this regard. And another actually confided in his boss that “he worries about me because I’m delicate and remind him of his wife” – how on earth could they provide me with professional feedback while holding such a sexist and inappropriate view?